Wednesday, May 9, 2012
By now you've heard about North Carolina passing a constitutional amendment banning gay marriage yesterday.
I am moving to North Carolina in the fall, and the result of this amendment passing was a bunch of texts and facebook comments from my friends saying things like "nascar! country music! awful awful terrible place!"
And then there were 8 hours of posts about stupid bigoted hick NCers. And THEN (because this is how the social media cycle works) there was an hour of reactionary "wait a second, stop judging a whole state like that".
This is one of the latter. Stop judging a whole state because they passed a crazy awful evil law, OHIO. Remember how this state also voted down gay marriage just a few years ago OHIO? Remember how we then elected a crazy tea bag governor who is anti-union, anti-choice, anti-public employees, anti-public transportation, and pro-fracking, OHIO? Remember how we haven't even impeached him yet, unlike Wisconsin which is slowly getting it's shit together regarding Walker? Stop throwing rocks at glass houses Ohio.
And stop telling me that my chosen future place to live is going to be awful and I'm going to be surrounded by hicks and just hate every minute of it. I live in Ohio. I KNOW WHAT ITS LIKE BEING SURROUNDED BY HICKS. I am very well aware of what it's like to live in a place where only 42% of the population is sane. What you should be saying to me instead is "Hey, good, we're glad you're moving to North Carolina because then that will be one more sane person there who can push other people to be sane too."
Mostly, stop being assholes. You don't convert people to your point of view by being assholes and calling them names. Has that worked on you? Has the Right Wing calling you all bleeding heart idiot godless heathen sluts made you see the light up the elephant's ass? Or has it only stoked the hatred between the two camps, so that instead of reasoned arguments, or even emotional pleas, we only vomit vitriol at each other?
It is frustrating beyond belief to me when people throw away decorum, politeness, and most importantly cultural and political strategy, so they can type in all caps. If you really want to have any effect on this new law, then move to North Carolina with me and establish residency. Or stay here. Whatever. As far as I can see, culturally, North Carolina is pretty much going to be exactly like Ohio, and I did pretty well here, so I'm not worried. Places like these don't change by encouraging everyone to run away and making fun of the ones who stay.
Posted by Bridget Callahan at 1:56 PM